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So while all of us are here in centerfield let’s make the most of it, enjoy every moment, help others see the awesomeness and just be the HERO with the SHE always prominent. Being born a woman is a blessing and let’s not waste this gift we are blessed with
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Being kind ought to come naturally. However, we are taught as kids to be kind to anyone and everyone. Not harming, being nasty, greedy, or mean, and above all be good to everyone. No discrimination in any form. The bottom line is – BE KIND
Today in an age where so many are going through this dark tunnel called mental issues, being kind seems more relevant. The world has gone through a pandemic phase where people were perforce cooped in within their homes. Some were lucky to have work from home while some lost their jobs. Losing a job, a lockdown outside, the city and country on pause is indeed a bad state of affairs. It’s not surprising so many have issues relating to mental health. After all, a healthy individual is healthy because he or she is healthy from the top. The mind is the steering wheel and when the mental framework of a person is in top gear, the journey just becomes easier. Every one of us goes through phases of being low and down. Reasons could be many and varied. Society today is more accepting of individuals with issues but it was not so a few decades ago. Mental illness was just not acceptable. What do people who have a mental health issue do? Where do they go and who do they speak to. It is obvious they cannot fake depression, but faking being fine when depressed is very common. Have you ever thought about how much the person behind that smile is actually bruised or is bleeding? They try to cover it up with a smile or laughter. They hope the moans from inside are not heard by those on the outside. Eyes don’t lie they show the pain and suffering of an individual just has to come out, giving them a chance to fight this demon called depression. Family members who understand and care, friends who know the feeling, and teachers and seniors who can see the pain need to re-read that lesson on being kind. That chapter has to be read over and over again. Practically act and making this person feel better is what the message between those lines is – bold and clear.
Each one of us wears a unique pair of shoes. What we endure is what our life is and unless another person wears that pair of shoes or stands in the place of that individual understanding their pain is not easy. If we are not aware of what it is to be in the shoe of that person, why not stick to your own pair of shoes but stick your neck out and see pain, smell what’s wrong, hear them out, and put out that hand for an uplifting handshake or those arms for a genuine caring hug.
So if a person you meet next time is really happy and showing it, let us hope it’s genuine or if he or she is faking it let’s hope they get fine soon. Your helping hand of kindness may just make that a possibility. You never know something you do or say, untangles those tight knots that have tied them so badly.
Being kind ought to come naturally, but if it does not just stay away and do not mess up an already messy situation for a person fighting mental health issues.
He says he is ok with a smile Behind that smile is a huge pile Issues he is unable to handle Mentally tired of this bundle Your kindness may just make the difference His journey forward gets a little less tense Being kind is a great way to start You have done well doing your part
It’s been a while since I came here to pen something down. At times one is lost for a topic that churns you from within, hence it takes time to come on to paper.
A caption that popped up on my Instagram screen set this thought process rolling. It said, “People need to understand that sorry is not a magic eraser”. We so often utter the word sorry without even giving it a second thought or not really meaning it. A five-letter word that lets you just go and sets you free?
In school saying sorry to the teacher for homework not done, getting caught at being chatty in class, or not paying attention. Toddlers are taught to say sorry when they have done something wrong or something that is not normal. An action or word that ought not to be said or done. Hence this comes easily when we grow up. However, the mind too has grown and it knows what to say and when. It also knows what it means and what it does not.
Sorry also precedes excuses that we as adults use every day on every platform – home, classroom, or work. Excuses, again for not doing something that is expected of us. In normal day-to-day life, it is ok to say sorry and kill the issue in order to maintain harmony. However to say sorry and keep a relationship alive never works.
Relationships are complicated and when human minds, hearts, and emotions are involved it takes the complication quotient to another level. Every relationship is unique and each relationship under the same category is unique. Hence having a generic rule across the board for a relationship is nonsensical. No wonder they say human beings may be one of the most intelligent species on earth but they are also very complicated.
A child who will not say sorry to their aging parents because of ego will realize sooner than later that the stopwatch is up and it’s the end of the story for their parents. There is no point apologizing over a dead body or when the person is in a vegetable state. No one knows if they ever hear your cries or apologetic weeps. A spouse who realized he or she has done wrong will never get back the spark in their relationship with a “sorry”. A crack on a mirror remains there forever and so does a crack on their relationship sculpture. Siblings who when rich and well do think it’s ok to look down on a sister or brother who does not match up to their financial stature, social circles, or mentality. A childhood spent together is just erased and clots and blots develop on this canvas, giving the picture a stained and damaged look. Will a sorry help here? I wonder with skepticism, having gone through it myself.
The word sorry in relationships may be a crack filler but never an eraser. Hence let us stop thinking of it as the magical fixer and use it only when it comes from the heart in a positive, well-meaning way.
Can we say sorry to the planet, having messed it up so badly, or to the tree after chopping it off, left to die gradually. Some things are not as easy as they appear to be in thought and action.
If you need a magical fixer, make changes to your thought process, actions and let the other person see the change. A sorry will not even be needed at that stage. I am guilty of using this five-letter word – childhood to this day. However, this caption does set me thinking on its depth and realize today my follies which may or may not change in this lifetime.
Sorry is not really the end of the story Its a fixer in life’s complicated journey Relationships break, glued up with a sorry A crack is a crack, patchwork in a hurry Let’s start using it with meaning from within Along the way, it will always be a win-win
whisperingverses - Girija Menon 